Seven Foreplay Fantasies

A dragon was pulling a woman into its' terrible mouth. A courageous man rescued her. There are such helpers in the world who rush to save anyone who cries out. Like mercy itself, they run toward the screaming. She asked "Why did you come so quickly?" He said "Because I heard your helplessness."

How intimate is your relationship? Could you be more intimate than you're being?

Here are some good questions to ask yourself.

Are you comfortable naked? Are you comfortable being vulnerable?  Can you get aroused without using your eyes?  Can you touch without using your hands?  Can you communicate without moving your lips?  Are you in bed, or in your head, when you make love?

Your deepest sexual fantasies are probably among some of your most intimate secrets. 

Look deeper into your sexual fantasies and find out who you are.

Exploring sexual fantasies together is a wonderful way for loving couples to fall deeper in love. It helps to build up vast reserves of trust and intimacy, which creates a rock-solid foundation.

And almost any safe fantasy can become a foreplay experience.

Here are seven fantasies selected from our Foreplay Fantasy Workshop offered during Tantra in Tahiti.

In Tahiti, soul mates explore their fantasies. Not just for sexual excitement, but for insights into themselves as well. Each of these seven fantasies explore one of the universal sexual archetypes. Common themes like Surrender, Power, Seduction, Romance, and Intrigue are all explored here.

The key is good communication.

Before you explore any experience, follow these communication guidelines:

The Three Agreements

Attitude - You agree to keep it playful.
Attention - You agree the give each other undivided attention.
A Game - You agree to play all out, have fun, and do your best.

Make Three Commitments

Presentation - You are committed to Look the part, dress the part, and Act the part.
Preparation- You are committed to take the time to plan a little ahead and be creative - to add drama & staging.
Password- You commit to honor the password, as well as honor the integrity of the experience.

There are only two rules...

• No Pain
• No Penetration (unless mutually agreed upon)

How to select the right Fantasy Experience for you.

Each fantasy has a different appeal.

You wouldn't want to explore a fantasy with a partner who is uncomfortable during the experience, so it's best to decide ahead of time.  Talk about which fantasies interest you most. 

1. Read each Foreplay Fantasy together and discuss them before selecting one that feels right for you both.
2. Look for one that matches your mood, your current budget, your tastes, and your interests.
3. Make sure that the time and the place is feasible.
4. Make sure that it is safe (both emotionally and physically) to explore the fantasy you are choosing.
5. Look for ways to personalize or improvise your experience.
6. Only select role-plays that will arouse elements that intrigue both of you.

Then try one (or all seven) of these sensuous fantasy foreplay games.

Expect to enjoy some steamy nights of foreplay, no matter which of these seven foreplay games you choose.  Any one of them can help you add more heat, passion, adventure, intrigue, and WOW factor to your relationship.  You'll have fun and discover more about yourselves as you put the power of a fantasy to work for you.  

Don't ask me why this delights me so much, because I'm really not sure. I just know I love it.

I'm always fascinated by the insights you gain from a fantasy foreplay experience. If you are up to it, you can share your comments with me.

NOTE TO TANTRA STUDENTS: Don't forget to take pictures of your fantasy foreplay night. You will be able to post them at our blogger web site and share your insights with other couples.

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Yours truly,